Does this beautiful woman look familiar to you? Michelle and her husband, Michaiah, are one of two married couples that God has seriously blessed me with. They invited me over to their new place after they got married and gave me the most amazing opportunity to ask them any – legit, any, and I did (information disclosed, lol) – about relationships, marriage, singleness – you name it. Michelle’s a sweet and loyal introvert and her husband is definitely an outspoken lover of God – and humble rappers. He really is. I love them both. I really really really do. I know they’ve made some monetary sacrifices to fill my tummy on our get-togethers and if I’ll remember anything else at the end of my days it definitely will be their faithful and selfless faith.
Anywhozits. I’ve asked all guest contributors to this series to answer a few questions so that you could get to know them more. Here are Michelle’s responses…
JUST A BIT ABOUT MICHELLE
Anything about yourself that you’d like them to know?
Words to describe me are: 27 years old, Jesus follower, wife, Caymanian, Artist/Illustrator, Black, Honduran descent, Corporate Administrator, Accountant, Animal Lover, Singer/Songwriter Fan, Movie Junkie, Sweet tooth, Introverted, Quiet, Reserved, Sunday School Teacher, Baby Admirer, Big Kid, & Disney Fanatic.
What’s one random/funny fact about you?
When I was in University, I joined a pageant with the sole purpose being to help me come out of my shell. I’m the girl on the left. No, I didn’t win lol.
20 years ago I was a little girl, riding in the backside of a car…
Since I was a little girl, I can remember being asked at kids parties, “Shelly, you okay?” I’d nod yes. Now I consider maybe I didn’t look okay, or maybe others could see on my face how uncomfortable parties made me, or maybe I chose to ‘think a lot’ at the wrong time – cake cutting time lol.
Fast forward to adulthood, I am still asked, “Are you okay? You don’t look okay.” I never understood why people were always asking me these questions. They definitely helped make me feel even more uncomfortable. Then I realized my face was conveying to others the deep discomfort I felt at social gatherings. It was then that I realized that I am not just quiet/shy but an introvert.
“Introvert: A shy, reticent person (not revealing one’s thoughts or feelings readily.) –Oxford Dictionary”.
The Quiet Cure
Transitioning into adulthood…University was great. I came to know Jesus. Something changed inside of me, I had no doubt. I became radically different from who I once was. I believed every word that Jesus lived, died for me and rose from the dead, making new life possible for me. God’s grace allowed me to throw off sin and pursue him eagerly. I became more outspoken, open to new people, things and even spoke in front of crowds. I was Ms. Cayman Islands in the Caribbean Student Association Pageant for goodness sake lol!
Loving Acceptance of Jesus
I was looking at my introversion as a bad thing — something that had to be cured. Others saw my quietness as a weakness and not a strength. I could hear the disapproval in people’s voice, “Michelle, why are you so quiet?” or “What happened to your tongue?!” as someone boldly asked me once. I always thought as I got older I would come out of my “Introvert Shell”, but I started (and still am learning) to embrace who I am and see the power in the Quiet.
My confidence does not depend on how well I navigate myself in a very extroverted world or how many friends I have or how outspoken/outgoing I am. My confidence is based on the loving acceptance of Jesus. Jesus made me uniquely how I am.
Yes, there are going to be uncomfortable situations, but look how uncomfortable Jesus made himself to save me? He made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. Phil.2:7
It’s okay to have alone time. There are many records in scripture of Jesus going to lonely, quiet or desolate places to pray or to rest and become energized again.
And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, he departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed. Mark 1:35
And he said to them, “Come away by yourselves to a desolate place and rest a while.” Mark 6:31
Jesus could no longer openly enter a town, but was out in desolate places, Mark 1:45
God does not condemn me in my Introversion.
“Accepting the realities of my God-given personality has been a process of sanctification. I’ve had to repent of people-pleasing and trying to be someone I’m not. I’ve had to humbly acknowledge my limits and weaknesses and to live in God’s strength rather than my own. Ultimately, this process has been about God and his kingdom, not me. The more I rest in his gracious acceptance of me in Jesus, the more free I become to be myself for his glory. And that’s a place where joy and contentment abound.” Aime Patrick, “Four Lies About Introverts”
In 1 Corinthians 4:1-5, the apostle Paul argues that what other people think about you doesn’t matter. He goes on to say that what you think about yourself doesn’t really matter either. All that matters is what God thinks about you because He is the only One who sees you as you truly are. My worth is not determined by what other people think. I am:
Fearfully and wonderfully made Psalm 139:13-16
Chosen 1 Peter 2:9
Predestined to be adopted as God’s child through Jesus Christ Ephesians 1:4-5
God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works Ephesians 2:10
Known well Psalms 139:1-4
Alive with Christ Colossians 2:13-14
A child of God John 1:12-13; 1 John 3:1
God’s daughter Galatians 4:6-7
God’s friend John 15:15
Dearly loved Colossians 3:12
A Citizen of Heaven Philippians 3:20
Salt of the earth Matthew 5:13
Light of the world Matthew 5:14
Free from sin Romans 6:18
God’s temple 1 Corinthians 3:16
A new creation! 2 Corinthians 5:17-21
Redeemed Luke 1:68
This piece of clay is no longer questioning the potter.
What stood out to you the most about Michelle’s story? Comment below 🙂